Dear Kafi. My boyfriend and I do not have any children, but, altogether, we have ten nieces and nephews. Recently, I have noticed more and more that our brothers and sisters have trouble with the children and their education. Now, some remarks and advice have slipped out of my mouth a few times. Thereupon I was told in a quite angry way to keep out of this because I don’t have any children. But I meant it only well. Is it really like this? Are childless people not allowed to give any advice on child education? Daniela, 31
Well, yes, you may give advice on education. But then you shouldn’t be surprised if this finds little enthusiasm.
Because even if you and your partner had 500 nieces and nephews, you wouldn’t have any idea what it means to be 24/7-parents. And that’s exactly the point. We are all great uncles and aunts, godmothers and godfathers. And this is no great feat as long as you can take the little ones home again in the evening. You should give advice only after you have experienced firsthand what it means to be a mother or a father. Because only then you know how hard it sometimes is to be confident when you sleep only 2 hours a night and have nevertheless to be fully responsible.
Warm regards, Kafi