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Hi Kafi. I have fallen in love with a man I actually think is terrific and we get on very well, but now it has turned out that he is a daily porn consumer... sex isn’t really great, which can be explained by this consumption (he doesn’t feel much anymore and that’s why he only tups). I usually listen to my heart, however, my head is telling me, “Run as fast as you can”! Janina, 30

Mon, 06/05/2017 - 18:40

Dear Janina,

No matter whether the good fellow mates like a wild boar because he is dulled by that much porn consumption or because he has a hyperactive willie for some other reason and no matter whether you’ve got the advice of your heart or your head; I’d run in any case.

Very warmly, Kafi


Hi Kafi. Is there a moral obligation to break off an affair once you notice that the other hopes for a closer relationship, even though you were honest and clear from the outset that there would never be more than an affair between the two of you? Regards, Röbi, 32  

Sun, 05/14/2017 - 19:34

Dear Röbi,

Are you asking me whether you should screw her a few more times before you clear the air or whether you should clarify the situation every now and then? What do you think you owe to a sexual partner, dear Röbi? And how would you like to be treated in her stead? Is it enough to clarify your needs at the beginning or do you share the responsibility for the emotional course of an affair? Does the commitment cease at the root of the penis or does it only start there?